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THERAPY FOR NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IN LOS FELIZ, CA
You’re allowed to become someone new.
“Maybe it was my fault. Maybe I’m overreacting.”
Sometimes you circle around the thought of “were things really that bad?” You replay conversations in your mind, trying to make sense of what happened and wondering if perhaps you were the one who misunderstood something. One moment you feel angry or hurt, and the next you’re questioning yourself.
You wish you could just turn their voice off in your head, but part of you may still miss them or want their approval, even though another part knows the relationship wasn’t healthy.
Your confidence has taken a hit, leaving you with the pieces of an identity you’re desperately trying to rebuild.
Meanwhile, your nervous system is a wreck. You’re hyperaware of other people’s moods, and it feels like you’re walking on eggshells even if the person isn’t around anymore. And now you’re wondering if you’ll ever enjoy life again, because you alternate between feeling numb and anxious. More than anything, you just want to make sense of what happened (and put it to rest) so you can move forward.
NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIPS CAN CAUSE:
Health challenges: headaches, stomach issues, trouble sleeping, or getting sick from stress
Jumpiness, hypervigilance, and an inability to trust yourself or feel calm
Constant people-pleasing and a hard time setting boundaries
The feeling of being trapped or powerless in your own choices or decisions
Negative self-talk and a lack of compassion for yourself
Forgetting who you are and what you really value
I meet you exactly where you are, reminding you that you were never “too much” and never “not enough,” even if that’s what you’ve been told for years.
Often, simply understanding what has been happening—and why your reactions make sense—can bring an enormous sense of relief and clarity.
But you deserve much more than that.
you deserve much more than that
How I Can Help
YOU’VE BEEN RESPONDING TO SOMETHING THAT WASN’T HEALTHY—AND YOU DESERVE THE CHANCE TO REBUILD YOUR SENSE OF SELF ON YOUR OWN TERMS.
One of the first things we do together is slow down and create space to talk openly about what you’ve been through. Many people who have experienced narcissistic abuse or antagonistic relationships are left feeling confused, hurt, and exhausted (to say the least)…and now questioning their own reality.
As your story unfolds, we begin identifying patterns in the relationship and exploring how those dynamics have impacted your mind, body, and spirit. From there, we work to rebuild your internal foundation—something that often becomes difficult to access or sustain in the midst of long-term chaos and manipulation.
This process includes:
Learning practical nervous system tools to help your body come out of constant alert mode
Exploring boundaries and communication strategies for dealing with difficult people (unfortunately, they’re everywhere)
Developing a deeper sense of self-trust
We may also use somatic approaches such as EMDR or Brainspotting to process painful memories and release the emotional charge they still carry.
Of course, we’ll be working through the narcissistic relationship, but there will also be a deep focus on you. This will be an opportunity to reconnect with the parts of yourself and your body that may have been suppressed or doubted, strengthen your intuition, and clarify your own values. I’ll encourage you to imagine the life you want to create moving forward and then give you the real tools to find it.
Because healing from narcissistic abuse isn’t just about leaving the past behind—it’s about reclamation! You can reclaim your voice, what’s been taken from you, and choose exactly who you want to become.
WALK AWAY FROM THIS WORK KNOWING…
You’re not crazy.
What happened (or is happening) is wrong and not your fault.
You’re not alone.
You are (and always have been) worthy of love and support.
Protecting your peace and upholding boundaries is possible.
You can trust your own intuition and feelings—the future is your own.
Their version of you was never the truth.TOGETHER, LET’S REDISCOVER WHO YOU’VE ALWAYS BEEN.
FAQs
COMMON QUESTIONS
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Narcissistic abuse refers to patterns of manipulation, control, and emotional harm that can occur in relationships with people who have strong narcissistic traits. These dynamics often involve things like gaslighting, chronic criticism, shifting blame, lack of empathy, boundary violations, or cycles of idealization and devaluation.
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I specialize in working with adult children of narcissists (ACoN), as well as relationships with narcissistic siblings, family members, or toxic workplaces and professional environments. Narcissistic dynamics can show up in many types of relationships. Some clients are currently in the relationship and trying to navigate boundaries, while others are processing the aftermath after leaving. In any case, the work focuses on helping you reconnect with your own voice, let go of any pain or tension you’ve been carrying, and rebuild trust in yourself.
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These relationships usually create powerful emotional and neurological patterns that can make them very difficult to leave. I recognize that and take the responsibility of helping you move through this seriously. Cycles of idealization, criticism, and intermittent reinforcement can create strong attachment bonds, sometimes referred to as trauma bonds. At the same time, the constant questioning of your reality can break down confidence in your instincts. Healing involves understanding these dynamics, rebuilding trust in your perceptions, and helping your nervous system come out of survival mode.
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Supporting people recovering from narcissistic relationships is a significant focus of my practice. My training in trauma therapy, somatic approaches, and nervous system regulation allows me to help clients process both the psychological and physiological effects of these relationships. I also bring expert-training and a deep understanding of relational dynamics, attachment patterns, and trauma recovery to this work. Many of my clients come specifically to process and reclaim themselves after experiences with narcissistic partners, family members, or workplaces.
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Yes. Therapy can help you understand the dynamics, recognize manipulation or gaslighting, and learn practical tools for boundaries and communication. I meet you where you are and respect that not every situation is simple—sometimes leaving isn’t possible right now.
Together, we focus on helping you feel more grounded and clear so you can begin to trust yourself again and decide what’s right for you moving forward.